The table of skills explains the Emotions Scale and how it affects our relationship with others.
People who are on this part of the scale consistently creates and expresses affinity. They derive a lot of joy from relationships with others. They are free and emotionally stable. This is because enthusiasm keeps them focused. Majority of people these days are faced with a lot of activities, information, demands, and requests from work, friends and family. There are so many distractions from phones, social media, email and other places. We are bombarded with a lot of choices now than ever before. Those who are on the enthusiasm level are able to keep their priorities in order and stay on track as life goes on daily. They are also able to cope better with life’s difficulties as failures.
When people face troubled relationships or tragedy, failure and hurt. When others make unwise decisions that affect them and accidents occur, or pain gets into the picture it is easier to want to get discouraged. But being on the enthusiasm scale will provide the strength that keeps them going.
3.5 Strong Interest
People who are on this level are sociable and friendly toward others. They possess a good sense of humor.
As you go through life, the number and strength of your relationships have a lot to do with your how strong you are physically and mentally.
If you are in this level, you will be able to connect more with people. There are many benefits associated with social connections. It helped to reduce the rate of depression and anxiety, causes higher self-esteem, more trusting and cooperative relationships. You are not the only one who benefits from your happy and contented feeling. It passes around. People who are around you will want to spend more time with you because of your own emotions. With time, you generate a positive feedback loop of social, physical and emotional well-being.
3.0 Content, Conservatism
People here always try to receive love even though they partially enjoy it. They are willing to enter friendships but are quite careful in expressing emotions.
Contentment unlike what people may think, has little to do with money, objects or other individuals. It also does not concern itself with how much or how little one has. Rather, it is about locating that point inside of us that allows us to be quietly happy no matter the situation and to be at peace with our own self.
Unless we are able to live in the moment and to accept things as they are, we may never really function properly or feel totally alive. Being contented frees us from the desires that just draw us forward blindly and which makes us unable to open up to the gifts and needs of others. People who are in this state always have free energy that they channel into fresh and conscious ways.
This kind of individual neglects his friends and does not cultivate relationships. Someone in this state always has reserved empathy toward others.
When people no longer seek challenge and discovery and have chosen security, they begin to invest less energy in a relationship. That’s how people in this stage behave. They no longer share ideas with the people they relate with. When things become too predictable, indifference can set in. With time, everything turns to irritation and annoyance. There is no longer protection but a cage because of the boredom.
2.0 Open Hostility
People who are permanently in this stage are hostile towards other people around them. They know how to put off intimacy, and the result is that they have only few friends.
You really do not want to be around those in this stage. They usually show aggression, and are sometimes even violent. Whenever, they come close the only thing that comes with them is destruction. Anger has a big impact on relationships. People who relate with someone who has a lot of anger are usually trying to find fault. It can become more complex and because anger is contagious, people in a relationship with angry people also get angry. They may no longer see themselves as people but as angry and hostile individuals and this eventually ruins the relationship.
1.1 Covert Hostility
You have to be very careful when dealing with this kind. They usually express love but are insincere. They approach people nicely only to end up hurting them.
People who are like this are so detached from their emotions and they don’t even recognize the anger they feel. If you are to relate with these people, you will have to help your partner find their feelings and what drives it.
This person is afraid of intimacy and closeness because of a constant suspicion. He turns away from people and does not associate with love.
Whenever the fears are triggered, they react and the reactions are usually not authentic or productive. The reactions can even be destructive if they do not even know why they react the way they are doing and how it affects people who relate with them.
People who are in this state are pity hunters. They only get close to people in order to ask for pity. You see them approaching people only through begging and servility. These people can have relationships but their grief can have an effect. Their partners may draw closer because of how much they need support and want to spend time together. But the same partners may stay away if the grieving individual gets back into their shell. This will make the partner lose patience with them and may even ruin the relationship.
This kind of people are not regular. They are detached from their surroundings, express no emotions, are closed and shut within themselves. It will take a lot of effort to build a relationship with this kind of people.